Well, Dallin had his test yesterday and the results so far are normal. And I am grateful, but we still have no answers. I am ready to just start supplementing.
I hate supplementing because I feel that I have failed to provide for my child. I felt that way with Danica too. But it might just be the best thing for my baby, but the thought of it makes me want to cry - I don't like failure. I don't like feeling that I'm not good enough for my child, and that is how supplementing makes me feel.
Dave keeps telling me everything is fine because he is such a happy baby - unlike Danica. Maybe he's right, maybe he is just a slow grower and not the norm.
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Don't feel like you are failing as a mom our that you can't provide for him. He may be allergic to milk or be lactose intolerant. I use to watch a little girl who was always spitting up, had terrible gas, and always had diareha. It was not until I suggest to her mom that we try a different formula that all of her problems stopped. They had to but her on a soy based one. So do not think of it as failing or that you are doing something wrong or bad.
Ty,being adopted, was on a bottle. But he REALLY bad reflux. So bad that he partially collapsed a lung. At the age of 1 he was barely into size 6 months clothes. He was and still is very tiny for his age. He didn't even get on the growth chart at the dr's office until age 2! But, they said as long as he keeps growing and doesn't get smaller,he can make his own chart. He's healthy now. I always felt that I wasn't doing the right things,why was he so small,why couldn't he eat....I had to learn that I was being the best mom I could,just like you, and sometimes things are just out of your control. Don't feel guilty,just supplement! He won't remember. You are a great mom.And,I agree,maybe he is lactose intolerant.Good luck sweetie,keep us posted!
Christine, are you aware that lactose intolerance runs in our family? Another possibility is that he can't tolerate the protiens in cow's milk. And if you are drinking cow's milk (I don't know if you do), it may be coming through.
Two out of three of my kids have trouble with milk - they both had to be put on soy when they were babies, and neither can drink milk now (along with myself). Zach can't even drink the Lactaid milk, because in addition to the lactose, he is also allergic to cow's milk. I'm pretty sure Rosanna's kids were on soy too.
Don't for a minute take it as a reflection on yourself. You are a great mom, and in no way a failure. It's just determining what is the best thing for Dallin that is tricky. Of course it's best to discuss it with your doctor before doing anything drastic, but it's something worth thinking about. But with our family's history of milk trouble, it is something worth keeping in mind.
I'm with your Auntie on this one. It could be something that you are eating that isn't settling with Dallin. Milk or something else. I couldn't eat Strawberries with Christina. And I LOVE strawberries! She can eat strawberries now, but it was weird. It was trial and error. But don't think for one moment that you have failed. Dallin knows that you love him and that you will do anything for his well being.
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These are all good ideas and thoughts. You should also know that most of my babies were small during their first year. Dallin may just be small by heredity. He is still growing and by the rate you have told me he should be about 18-20 pounds by age 1. If I remember right, that is about the same weight that your twin siblings were at that same age. So stop stressing and enjoy your baby.
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Hey Christina,
I went through a similar experience as you are going through now. I was so sure that I would breastfeed my girls, but after a month in the hospital and my milk supply dwindling, I found I could not meet their demands. I was pumping all through their hospital stay. I was not eating and drinking enough, so my supply was going down. Also, I was stressed out over the situation. Once I got them home and started to breastfeed them, I felt like they were not eating enough. Any ways to make a long story shorter . . . I ran out of my saved pumped breast milk and was not pumping enough. That is when I realized that I had to suppliment. I went through a grieving period and still tried to breast feed as well as pump--I sought advice from lactation consultants, started taking a lactation medication, and researched online on how to increase my supply. I still pumped through all of this. Once I stopped being stressed about the whole situation, my supply went up. I am now pumping about 40 ounces a day and providing my babies more than half their feeding with breastmilk. I realize now that I am doing what is best for me (I am not stressed about the situation and know my babies are getting enough to eat) and still providing my babies with breastmilk. I know your situation is very different than mine, but it is okay to do what you feel is best. If you feel like you want to keep trying breastfeeding (if that is what is best for YOU (to be destressed) and your baby), or if you want to try to suppliment, that is okay. Also it is okay to grieve if you choose to suppliment. I hope this all makes sense and might be somewhat helpful :) http://www.llli.org/ this is the website for the La Leche League that provided me with some good information. Feel free to email me if you want more info :) m4ever_636@hotmail.com
Melissa
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